When it comes to helping yourself live the life that you have always wanted, you may wonder where to begin, as there are so many things to consider when trying to re-vamp your life for the better. The tips in this article can provide you with what you need to better your life.

When you are trying to help yourself, it is important that you free yourself of any extreme stress factors in your life. If you have constant negativity around you, of course you are going to feel negative! Make sure you surround yourself with the positive energy that you should know and you definitely deserve.

One way to help yourself is by making your mind more open. An open mind allows you to fully experience the world in a way that you could not if you were more narrow or closed minded. Be curious. Ask questions and broaden your horizons. If you don’t try to find out about life outside your scope, you are really missing out and only looking at the world through a “bubble.”

Personal development can be stressful, since it presents many challenges as you’re looking to change old habits. Try to minimize stress in your life during this period. Minimizing stress can prevent overreacting to stressors. This will make every obstacle more likely to be an eventual success, since overreacting makes us more susceptible to missteps.

Keep all of your household notes in one notebook. Arrange them chronologically. Write down your shopping lists right under your conversation with the utility company. Date everything and that way you will be able to easily locate your notes just by thinking about the approximate date you made them.

Stop thinking so much about yourself. That may seem counter-intuitive, but when you start paying attention to what you can do for others instead of worrying about yourself so much, good things can happen. The appreciation of others when you’ve done self-less acts is just icing on the cake and you’ll improve how you view yourself, too.

Substitute positive surroundings for negative ones. Keep yourself busy and surrounded by people and things that have a positive influence on you. You’ll be less likely to engage in bad habits like smoking or overeating,plus, you’ll be more likely to use your time in a positive and more beneficial way.

A self-help strategy for overcoming anxiety is to stop thinking in absolutes, using words like “never,” “always,” “must,” and so on. This type of distorted thinking results in unrealistic expectations, which cause you to put additional, excessive pressure on yourself. By defeating these cognitive distortions and putting thoughts into more realistic terms, you are less likely to overwhelm yourself with stress.

Remember that the only way to change something in your life is to take action and make it work. In an effort to improve yourself, you must be willing to make the right sacrifices in your normal way of life and thinking. These can be small or large changes, however, you must commit to each one fully, for a truly effective impact.

Shyness in social situations can be a source of great discomfort and missed opportunities. You can learn to overcome this deficit upon meeting a new person for the first time. How? Well first take a deep breath and then quickly thinking back to a moment in your life where you were proud of an accomplishment, confident in your abilities, or on the verge of success. The memory will give you an added boost that will be reflected in your tone and composure and is sure to make a good impression.

As you have seen, self-help techniques, while various, share many fundamentals. They just vary in application and time. All it takes to decide between them is deciding what aspects of your life that you want to change, how you plan to do so, and what personal goals you plan to accomplish.


C. Thomas Gambrell, known for living to make Sunshine (AKA his wife) laugh, is a lover of tropical beaches, sushi, marketplace ministry and everything corn (popcorn, tortilla chips, nachos, grits, etc.). As a nationally acclaimed business success coach he helps people give birth to new belief systems, bodies and businesses. Find out more about his proven success strategies with his popular FREE Resources, available at CThomasGambrell.com

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